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No, it’s not mother’s day. For a change let’s give credit to our mothers on a day as insignificant as any other. Mothers tend to be the guiding lights in our lives but it’s not till much later that we realize what a positive influence they are.
Mothers love to give advice, they just want what’s best for us and want nothing more than to see us soar in life.
We found this interesting thread on Quora where people shared the best of advises they’ve ever received from their mothers.
The original question says: What is the best advice your mother ever gave you?
This answer by Max Lukominskyi is definitely one with which many will be able to relate.
Never Take An Advice From Someone You Would Not Want To Switch Places With
Unfortunately, my mom is not that proficient in the field I am interested in. Despite the fact that she cannot give me a lot of advice on things I am mainly concerned with, she gave me the one that has become the key to accelerating my personal growth and broadening my knowledge in the areas of my major interest. This advice has definitely added to my success in the long run.
The desire to give an advice or criticize seems to be inherent in all human beings. And it does not really harm anyone as long as it is to the point and worth something.
Usually constructive criticism and meaningful advice become a source of inspiration and eventually the basis for new changes, ambitions and accomplishments. However quite regularly they can have an opposite impact and affect you the other way round.
You appear to be so concerned with people`s opinion that very often becomes the main reason of your fears and blocker for new beginnings.
So many great ideas and thoughts were buried right away after being announced because of the disapproval or rejection of peers.
It happens due to the fact that people are so used to mediocrity that they feel embarrassed when someone thinks and acts out of the box.
It is especially the case when an idea pitched to them are absolutely non-standard and too ambitious. Therefore they are always ready to destroy it by silly criticism and poor arguments just in order to make you stay on the same level.
Beware of “gurus”, “professionals”, “experienced specialists”, and “I-know-it-all guys” who think they are experts and are always eager to share their “firm” opinion on almost everything, even if it is far beyond their expertise.
The syndrome that embraces these behavior is called ultracrepidarianism.
Ultracrepidarianism is the habit of giving opinions and advice on matters outside of one’s knowledge. Consequently, ultracrepidarian is a person who criticizes, judges or gives advice on matters that are outside the area of his or her competence. It turns out that we live in a world full of ultracrepidarians.
No doubt, you know those people who tend to talk too much and teach others in fields they barely know anything about.
Ultracrepidarians are the people who are in charge of lowered motivation and great bunch of destroyed dreams and ambitions.
Know who your adviser is and appreciate his opinion respectively. Filter out those who do not know a shit what he talks about and listen to those who can provide a genuinely valuable advice.
Never take an advice from someone you would not want to switch places with. Do not let people misguide you with their words. Keep away from small people who always try to belittle your ambitions.
What amazing advice! Personally, the best advice my mother ever gave me was to believe half of what you see and nothing of what you hear. Meaning, things are not always as they are made out to be or people want you to believe.
Let us know the best advice you mother ever gave you. And go thank her for what a big hand she plays in shaping you as a good human being.
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