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    It’s Not About All Men Being Pigs, Or Women Being Sluts: Bengaluru Mass Molestation

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    January 5, 2017

    During New Year’s Eve celebrations on MG Road and Brigade Road in Bengaluru, a mob of drunken men harassed and molested numerous women present at the venue. The event has been termed a “mass molestation”.

    Bengaluru mass molestation

     

    How weird does that sound? Sadly, terms like molestation and mass murder have become commonplace in the news, but mass molestation is proof that our society has hit a whole new low.

    Although believe it or not, Bengaluru did not invent this crime. In fact, on the very same night, in a different time zone – the city of Cologne, Germany – a horde of men molested women attending the New Year celebrations.

    Ah, what a time to be regressive! The beginning of a new year is the perfect time to squash the spirits of women and remind them where they belong, isn’t it? We don’t want them getting any absurd notions about our society moving forward with time.

    If news of the incident itself isn’t frustrating enough for you, our politicians can help with that. Karnataka’s Home Minister casually remarked that “such things do happen on New Year and Christmas.” These things happen, guys. No need to make a big deal out of it. Millenials, amirite?

    Karnataka Home Minister blames western influence     Abu Azmi's sexist remark

     

    And then there was Abu Azmi with another one of his sexist rants about it’s-all-because-of-women-dressing-scantily.

    The situation took an even sadder – and sadly predictable – turn within a few hours of the news when #NotAllMen began trending on Twitter.

    Twitter user supporting #NotAllMen

    Twitter user supporting #NotAllMen

    Twitter user supporting #NotAllMen

     

    Sigh.

    Please, please, pay attention to the fact that pretty much nobody is blaming “all men” in the first place.

    A bunch of hooligans decided that molesting women was their idea of a fun party, countless women are coming forth to speak up about their own experiences of being harassed for the “crime” of saying no, and you want to make the conversation about your hurt feelings?

    humourous response to #NotAllMen

    Some responded to the #NotAllMen tag with good ol’ desi humor.

     

    The very fact that you are more worried about your bruised ego than about the very real epidemic of violence against women is shameful. You are right, #NotAllMen are misogynists, but if you are supporting this hashtag on social media, then you certainly are.

    Another hashtag, #YesAllWomen, soon gained momentum on Twitter in response to the #NotAllMen trend.

    YesAllWomen

    YesAllWomenYesAllWomen

     

    And it’s by no means an exaggeration, trust me. All women – and many little girls not old enough to be called women – have faced some form of sexual harassment. If you don’t believe that, you are ignorant about either the status of women in our country or about what counts as harassment.

    Most reports of this incident are referring to it as “Bengaluru’s night of shame” and calling the Twitter scenario a “battle of the sexes.”

    No, please, no. Stop. This is not the time to shame the people of one city or pit men and women against each other.

    Delhi has earlier been dubbed the rape capital of the country, but everyone’s personal story is different. I have faced more harassment since I moved to Mumbai than I ever did in Delhi.

    This isn’t about all men being pigs or women being sluts. And as Chak de India as it sounds, this is certainly not about Bengaluru, or Delhi, or Mumbai. This is about India and the mentality of Indians.

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    None of us are free from blame, because by fighting amongst each other instead of condemning the molesters – and ONLY the molesters – we are letting India become the rape capital of the world. We are allowing it.

    Stop derailing the conversation.

    Speak up against sexual assault.

    End the patriarchy.


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    • Naveen Kumar

      dekho ji simple si point hai ki apni suraksha apni hath…ab rat ko do bje bahar ghumoge to ab ladka ho ya ladki crime hone ka khatra done pe hai…ab ye alag bat hai ki ladkiyo ke sath sexual molestation ak additional crime ho jata hai…but agr murder ,daketi ko dekho to dono pe brabar ka khatra hai …i agree jisne kiye use sja do …par ye v jan lo hum koi utopia me nhi rah rhe hai ki sablog ache hi mile…aur na hi koi police na hi koi govt na hi koi rule aur na hi koi sanskar sare criminals ko khatam kar sakte hai ….aur ye fact hai…agr aisa hi ho jata to kisi ko police ki jarurat hi nhi padti …to in short bat ye hai ki jisne galat kiya use pakdo kadi se kadi sja do…par apni surksha v apni hi hath hai…nhi to aise hi rat ko do bje ghumo aur jab kuch galat ho jaye to chillate rho…kuch hone wala nhi hai …jisne kiya wo jail jayega aur uske jaise bahut sare society me pahle se hai…duniya etni v achi nhi hai…

      • Kanika Kalra

        Dekho ji, Naveen bhai. Simple si baat hai.

        Desh ka har earning citizen taxes pay karta hai, haina? Those taxes pay for the building and maintenance of public places, and that is also where the law enforcement gets its funds. Toh shouldn’t people be able to use these places with a sense of security, regardless of what time it is?

        Iss case mein, a mob created a ruckus where there were hundreds of people present, including several policemen. Phir bhi the women present there weren’t safe from molestation. Toh hum kaise keh sakte hain ki they would have been safer if it was 2 PM instead of 2 AM?

        Thank you for putting forth your opinion, sir ji. I appreciate your view on the matter, but I don’t agree with it. Good day!

    • ThatChemEngGuy

      Wow that’s just sad. When a problem is at such a massive scale, I don’t know how you go about solving it. The best place to start would certainly be education and social programs. I am not familiar with sentencing with these cases but you could also work towards implementing stricter mandatory sentencing for crimes of similar nature. I think most of the people agree that there is a problem, the harder part is working towards a solution. How do you propose the government should go about it? From my POV, these problems can’t be completely solved overnight but through more education and better social support structure, at least it can be minimized within a few generations. I mean its hard to bring about any change when there is a billion+ people in the equation but you gotta start sometime.

      • Kanika Kalra

        Thanks for the comment, ThatChemEngGuy. I completely agree with you.

        Education is the answer. But, by education I don’t just mean sending more kids to school. Of course, encouraging education is the first step, but what’s actually going to solve the problem are educational reforms. We need changes in our education system. We need to teach kids about respect and consent, but in order to do that, we need to normalize the idea of sex right from the beginning. Instead of teachers who themselves feel awkward speaking the word out loud in a classroom, we need trained teachers who can not only talk about sex, but also appropriately handle situations in which children trivialize the topic.

        Like you said, it’s not a problem that can be solved overnight. There’s a long way to go. But we can’t sit back and hope things will get better, we need to make real, tangible changes.

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