By Sakshi Kanodia
Flings, Casual Sex, Friends-with-Benefits, etc. – These are some of the very common topics amongst today’s youth. With the advent of the internet and the whole plethora of dating apps such as Tinder, Badoo, etc., and of course the usual like Facebook, Hangouts and Hike, the dating world has gained a whole new momentum.
Hooking up with someone has never been easier and seriously speaking, relationships don’t have any black or white areas anymore. They have grey areas.
But then, let’s come to the Indian domain where our apparent “sanskar” does not allow us to refer to such stuff and till date makes girls think that losing their virginities before marriage will destroy their lives. We all like to hear these terms in English movies and series but when trying them out, we never have any guts to actually come out in the open. Folks, If you are ready to westernize your closet and your lifestyle, don’t you think that you should first start being open to westernized concepts and open thoughts?
Everyone should try and understand that these new concepts of flings not bad even if they go against the conventional Indian idea of dating only for the purpose of making a good catch for marriage and securing your future.
However, before I start off with a rant, I would like to stop right there and first actually try and explain the differences between the above mentioned terms and of course how they don’t make a girl a ‘Slut’ or a guy a ‘Stud’.
So, the first one in my list is the term “Friends with Benefits”. This means that the guy and the girl know each other and are actually quite friendly. And, they have a pact of fulfilling each other’s sexual needs and that is where their relationship stops.
Advantage – No complexities in relationship, just physical attraction.
Drawback – They might develop feelings for each other. (Both Hollywood & Bollywood agree on this.)
The next one would be of course a “fling” where a guy and girl are not at all interested in each other’s personal lives but would love to talk to each other, continue dating for a week or two and may even have sexual relations but that is it.
Advantage – No emotional quotient involved as you don’t even know the person that well.
Drawback – You are branded as “heartbreaker”, “Dhokebaaaaaaaaj”
Casual Sex and Hook-ups
Last but not the least are my two favourite words “casual sex” and “hook-ups” in which the emotional quotient is minimal; they only meet up for sex.
Here, there is literally no drama, zero. But you need to have protection aaaaaaaaall the time!
Concluding my guide-book on no-tension-relationship, I would just like to say one thing: it’s not bad to keep your sex life and emotional life separate. Explore your sexuality to the fullest before venturing into a romantic rollercoaster because it will just come like a whirlwind to swoop you away.
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